Last week G wrote about the fact that as coaches, we are Focus Keepers. We hear your goals, we know what you want and we keep you on track even when life detours you far off course. We are the voice that brings you back and snaps you out of your delusion that things are “fine.”
Once we have your attention and you have realized that your focus was in fact a little blurry we get down to business. If any of you have have ever had a coach you know that we ask a lot of questions. It’s just part of the process.
G and I recently did a live coaching call about fitting our lives into our lives. We asked a lot of questions. How many of us have made new year’s resolutions only to make the same one next January? Why? Is it not important? Are we not motivated? In order to figure it out we started with what we like to call the BIG 3! We see these as the most important questions to figuring out why we aren’t reaching our goals.
The first question is, “What is making your list everyday?” This questions is like keeping a food journal. Often times when you begin a diet your weight-loss coach will ask you to write down EVERYTHING you eat so you can see what is actually going into your mouth each day. So, what are you doing every day? Write it all down. Are you working 18 hours/day? Did you spend 30 minutes on Facebook? Did you sit down to watch House of Cards and watch the entire season? Did you spend your entire weekend getting caught up on work? There is no judgement here, just the facts about what you are spending your time on. I am not going to lie, when I started looking at my list I felt like I could be replaced by a good nanny and a housekeeper most days! Guess what? That wasn’t my new year’s resolution.
Now that you know what IS making your list, “what is NOT making your list or fitting into your day?” Yep, this taps into what we want to be doing. This is the meat of our goals usually. Maybe you sat down on December 31st and told yourself you wanted to spend more quality time with your family, but when you look at your list…family is not on there. Perhaps you signed up to run a marathon, but haven’t actually been running. That could be a problem come race day! Maybe you decided that this was the year that you were actually going to get in shape and stay in shape, but you haven’t found a single day to hit the gym. You see where this is going, right? You are not going to reach your goals and come December 31st, 2015, you will be writing down the same goals as last year!
The third question circles back to the first, “what is stealing all of your time?” Yes, you can look at the answer to the first question, but do it with a new lens. Look at the big picture. If someone were outside looking into your life, what would they see? Yes, you are in fact working all of the time. Yes, you are wasting time. Yes, you are letting small things get in the way of working on your goals.
The question I often follow all of this up with is, “how do you feel?” As you can imagine, some people are completely in tune with where their time is being spent, but others are overwhelmed when they actually see where their time is going. What about you? Were you surprised to see what is actually making your list every day? Next week, we will continue discussing our goals because it’s not too late to be who you said you wanted to be this year!
Sunshine & Sarcasm,
Lowi & G