As a coach, I ask my clients weekly to take chances, leaps of faith, and believe in themselves. I ask them to see themselves just a fraction of how other people see them. No, not that nemesis on Facebook who has to comment negatively on everything you do. We don’t care about what they think. In fact, right now go and delete them from your “friend list.”
It’s okay, I’ll wait…
As I was saying, I want people to see and feel how others view them. This revelation can bring people to tears. It’s difficult to see ourselves as others see us. We never give ourselves the credit we deserve for working hard or achieving some level of success. We are all a bunch of minimizers. Sure, we want to be modest and humble and we certainly don’t want to go spouting off about how awesome we are but why can it be so difficult to accept ourselves for who we really are?
I love when I see a client really come into who they are. It’s a beautiful thing to witness someone come to the realization that are so much more than they give themselves credit. When I see someone accomplish their goal, finish a race they didn’t believe they could run, or just honor who they are by believing, it inspires me.
We have all seen athletes, musicians or celebrities who downplay their talents, but I love when I see someone say, “thank you, I have worked so hard for this or I am so proud of the work I have done.” I think it’s because they are acknowledging the fact that it takes time, dedication, and hard work to achieve anything of importance. That gives us all hope. When someone continually says it was nothing, no big deal it feels even more unattainable to the rest of us mere mortals.
When G and I set out to create a blog almost 3 years ago we felt like we were stepping outside the lines. It felt too bold. Who did we think we were? Sure, lots of people have blogs, but we didn’t consider that they might have had some mental wrangling about beginning as well. We just made the assumption that they were super human and amazing writers to boot, so of course it made sense for them to write a blog. It was tough to put ourselves out there and begin, not knowing or really caring if anyone else would read it. We had to take a chance; a leap of faith and believe in our own abilities.
It turns out that there are a handful of people who actually like our writing style and think we are funny. I know it’s hard to believe and we struggle with it daily but it’s true. This week G and I were on a video coaching call together and the host not only complimented our writing style, but sternly reprimanded us for minimizing everything we do. She went on to tell us exactly what she liked about our writing and the feeling that it invokes. Did I mention it was a video call so it felt very uncomfortable having her give us compliments while having to make eye contact? By the end of the call I actually started to believe what she was saying and I felt what many of my clients must have felt over the years. Awkward. Uncomfortable. Strangely emotional. Exhilarated.
Later, I wondered, who could I be if I actually believed? What could happen if I stepped outside the lines? Could I be as brave as my clients?
I don’t know what is going to happen, but today I am choosing to believe in who I am.
Sunshine & Sarcasm,
Lowi & G