We bought a Peloton bike about a year ago. I have several favorite instructors, but Robyn Arzon is my absolute favorite. She is always positive and motivating and she keeps me coming back for more.
Actually, they are all positive and motivating, it’s their job, but there is something so genuine and real about her that it makes me want to push just a little harder each ride. One of the phrases that she loves to use when motivating riders is, “you have already lived through 100% of your hardest days.” I love this because she’s right. If you are still here to tell about it, then you have learned to survive. It means that no matter how challenging today might feel, you know from your past experiences that you have lived through some S&*@#!
This week, she took that phrase and went a little deeper. We all have days where we are down, struggling with something, don’t feel like we are enough or aren’t sure what to do next. She said for these moments she has a rolodex of accomplishments in her head. These are the moments when she succeeded at something, worked hard and made it to the other side and was proud of herself. When she thinks of these moments she is able to conjure up that feeling of crossing the finishing line, so to speak, and she pushes harder. When she feels afraid or like she can’t take another step she remembers that feeling of success that only hard work and conquering your fears can provide.
She suggested we all make a mental rolodex of our achievements so when things get tough we can take a deep breath and push through. We all know what it’s like to need a little extra encouragement or maybe we just need a reminder that we can do hard things and we matter.
My youngest went to college this year and to be honest our lives have been busy since she left. We really didn’t feel the dark abyss we were expecting because our older kids have been in and out, staying and moving. We have helped them with all the things like refinishing furniture, packing, driving cross country and a little wedding planning.
Now, it’s almost February and it’s finally quiet. I don’t like it one bit and it’s in these quiet moments sometimes that insecurity rears its ugly head. We all have these moments and they make us doubt ourselves; doubt who we are and what we have done. I don’t care if you work at a Fortune 500 company, bring home a large paycheck and live in a fancy home, work paycheck to paycheck and barely make ends meet, you are a stay at home parent, you are married, not married, have kids or don’t have kids, you have days where you could use a little encouragement. These are the moments that we need to pull out our mental rolodex and remember who we are and what we are made of.
So, I started a list of my accomplishments and you should consider making one as well. Maybe you have lost weight, climbed a mountain, moved on your own somewhere, ran a marathon, went back to school and got a degree or maybe you got out of bed on the hardest day of your life. It’s your list. Yours will look different than mine, but it will feel the same. Our lists should make us feel proud of who we are, they should make us know that we have grit, they should make us feel the struggle, but also the infinite joy that comes with accomplishing your goal.
I could tell you what I felt in each moment that I added to my rolodex. I can conjure up those emotions and know what took it for me to cross each of those finish lines and I am there, in that moment.
What finish line have you crossed that makes you stand a little taller? What moment takes you to a place that makes you stronger; makes you push just a little harder? Go make your list, I promise you it will be worth it.
Sunshine & Sarcasm,
Lowi & G