Recently I was speaking with a friend of mine about her daughter who was debating which college she wanted to attend in the fall. She had many choices, offers and scholarships. She just couldn’t decide which one was best and the deadline for choosing a school for the fall was just days away. This mom was frantic about her daughter making any decision and the daughter was overwhelmed with making the “right” decision.
My friend wanted support and to know that it was all going to be okay. I am her only friend who has kids who have made the leap out of high school. It’s important to note that I have one kid in college and one who took an alternative path. I am a safe person to talk to because whatever her daughter decides, it’s probably going to fall somewhere within the boundaries of where my kids are. There will be no judgement coming from me!
So what did I tell her?
It’s all going to be okay. Of course, the decision is important and you want your son/daughter to choose the best possible fit, but it isn’t the most important decision they will ever make in their young lives. It just feels like it at the time. We want them to be somewhere that they can grow, meet new people, find themselves and learn to adult at some level. This can happen anywhere. The important thing to remember is that this decision doesn’t determine the rest of their lives. They are just beginning their journey. I know a lot of people who changed schools, quit school, didn’t go to school and many more that are not doing anything close to what their degree is in. It’s called life and it is constantly evolving and changing. Our kids need to know that college is a big decision, but it isn’t the final word.
Life throws curve balls, things don’t always turn out the way we think they are going to and we have to adjust. Sometimes things are difficult and the only way to get through it is straight down the middle. Other times we need to make big changes. We all need to remember there are always choices and for that I am grateful.
Sunshine & Sarcasm,
Lowi & G