Becoming happier, cultivating happiness, is something we all want, and at times work to do, to be. But our unexamined actions can push us away from our endeavor instead of drawing us closer. We brush off the compliment from a friend, we take for granted the luck at catching all green lights on our commute to work because they’re small.
However, those are just the moments that lead us to a greater experience of enjoyment. Routinely savoring these moments of “happy” that may rank a 1 or 2 on the happiness scale is exactly what leads to more joy.
Take a moment and let them sink in, embrace them as Rick Hanson suggests in “Hardwiring Happiness.”
He’s a researcher in the area so he should know. No need to take my word for it.
Yesterday morning, I had one of those moments. My husband brought the mail in we hadn’t retrieved the day before and in the pile was a package. I opened it up and it was a new version of a book I use in my work.
I started flipping through the first few pages delighted that my immediate boss was so prominently showcased for all her hard work.
Then I got to the Acknowledgments page. It’s not a page I routinely read in books but since I know all the players I wanted to read their thoughts. I was stunned to find among the many words of thanks, my own name!
It felt exciting, although undeserved, and so awesome.
But then I quickly got on with the rest of my morning preparations. A few hours later it hit me. I hadn’t really savored it. An unexpected moment of kindness, of happiness, of joy and I had squandered it.
A kindness was extended in an amazing way and I hadn’t properly taken it in. So I did. I am. The only way to make happy my default position is practice.
And, of course, a heartfelt thanks to Margaret, Erika and Bob who were kind enough to include myself and my colleagues in their published efforts.
Happiness felt, savored, enjoyed and wired within.
Sunshine & Sarcasm,
Lowi & G
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